Most people are surprised when I tell them that I’m actually quite introverted. This is because the “me” that the world sees is a result of very intentional energy restoration practices. I’ve learned over the years what it takes for me to be out in the world. And, more importantly, what happens if I don’t restore and recharge (it ain’t pretty).
On the spectrum of introvert to extrovert, I’m probably one of those blended types, but I definitely get my energy from being alone and being around people drains me (no offense).
How do you know where you fall on the spectrum? Imagine you’re at Whole Foods and you see someone you “kind of” know. Is your first instinct to go up to them and say “hi” or to quickly turn away and pretend you’re deeply contemplating which $15 bottle of olives to buy. Mmmmhmmmm, I thought so, my introverted olive connoisseur.
The reason this example is so powerful is that quietly walking around in observation mode is a common decompression practice for many introverts, but add a crowd and it’s a freakin’ nightmare if you’re depleted. Extroverts, on the other hand, might feel compelled to hit Whole Foods at prime time to get energy from social interaction if they’re feeling low (I know you introverts don’t believe me, but it’s true).
The world needs the whole range of introverts, extroverts, and everything in between, but to us more introverted types, it can often feel like extroverts have the upper hand when it comes to opportunities. They are out there in the world more often, having more conversations, and connecting with people, while we’re cocooning in our cozy home. There’s certainly truth to that, but never fear, Quiet Ones, there are as many successful, happy, powerful introverts as there are extroverts.
Yes, we may have to work a little harder to create opportunities for ourselves. But while it may be uncomfortable for us to put ourselves out there and ask for what we want, we have other Superpowers like super sensitivity, empathy, intuition, observation, and listening. I know they may not sound that flashy, but they are what make you a Powerful Force to Be Reckoned With, the Quiet Storm That No One Saw Coming, the Trusted Benevolent Guide, the Introspective Insightful Healer, the Unique You That the World Needs.
Rest assured that prioritizing your self-care, cocoon time, and solitude is the foundation of being able to show up in the world in whatever way you desire. When you are fully charged, step out into the world in your gentle way and use your Superpowers to connect and engage. When you hit low power mode, leave the loud world with confidence, knowing that your absence is as powerful and necessary as your presence. When you religiously and preemptively do what you need to restore and recharge, you might even find yourself putting down that olive jar and saying “hi” to an awesome opportunity.